10 Items Kids Find Almost Impossible to Share
One of the values that parents like to pass along to their children is the importance of sharing. Like anything else in parenting, even the strongest efforts are met with varying degrees of success. Some children really struggle with the concept of sharing. Even kids who are generous by nature will not share a few particular things. Here’s a list of 10 things that even the most giving children have trouble sharing.
- Affection – displays of affection often make children irrationally jealous; most kids can’t stand to share the affection of a parent or caregiver.
- Comfort Objects – whether it’s a special teddy bear or a blankie, these items are totally off limits for other kids.
- Attention – the attention of the people children care about it something that almost all kids find it difficult to share.
- Bedrooms – sharing their personal space with anyone, even a sibling, can become so grating that kids explode; temper tantrums from children who share a room are anything but rare.
- Favorite Foods – almost all kids have trouble sharing when it comes to their favorite food.
- Toys – most toddlers and some preschoolers will have trouble understanding the concept of sharing a toy (it is generally thought that children don’t fully grasp the concept and importance of sharing until age 7)
- Bathrooms – tweens and teens that share a bathroom are likely to spend more time at war than getting along; constant complaints about grooming habits and long showers will, more often than not, spiral into all-out battle.
- Television – with so many different channels and interesting shows to watch constantly, sharing a television is no easy task.
- Clothes – at a certain age, kids begin to positively loathe the idea of sharing clothes with a sibling. By the teen years, arguments over clothes borrowed without permission begin.
- Teachers – having behavior, grades and learning style all compared to a sibling can be nerve-wracking, leading to resentment.
A Harvard University study suggests that kids who witness their parents being generous to one another and sharing have an easier time grasping the concept and applying it without the help of an adult. The same study also showed that older children who witnessed stingy behavior between their parents were more likely to exhibit the same reluctance to share themselves; as with many other childhood lessons, sharing is mostly learned by modeling and discussion.
By Tina Marconi