Absolutely essential that mum should continue to show love to dad after baby is born, sadly all too often dad is considered redundant once baby is born. My ex and I were so much in love and when a baby daughter came along as a result of a honeymoon pregnancy we were both overjoyed. Yet once baby was born she began to consider me a threat to "her" baby, and all because baby developed a slight rash which doctor said could have been caused by being cuddled against dad's facial stubble. She went back to her mother with a six month old child whom I wasn't allowed to see again for several years, daughter grew up to become a loner and lives a reclusive life with only her pet rats for company. I remarried, second wife had health problems so no children and now she is confined to a wheelchair. I'm now 57 and beginning to become fretful that by the time I ever get the chance to become a new dad again I will be too old to give my future kids all they need.

Hi Scott,

Yep, I get your drift!

Another one is "Mummy loves you" and "come to Mummy"! I get it all the time! We have come to an agreement now that when we each go to and come home from work we give each other a little peck.. seems to be working a little better now.

My partner works all day and I usually leave before she gets home to my part time work between 5pm and 9pm.

I think it is important to "share the love" throughout the whole household. It is easy to loose that and it takes a little while to build that up again.

I wish you luck, but maybe sit down and talk to your wife, I think it is a woman thing to give all their affection to there children and not realise they are not paying so much attention to their partners/husbands. They need to be told sometimes and even sometimes by someone else. I guess it is a two way thing. I think my partners daughter is feeling a little the same way as us. She is 13 and our son Caleb is now nearly 15 months.

I am going to email your Blog to my partner now!