50% of all marriages fail and it is higher for the second marriage and so on, with that in mind is Separation and Divorce considered normal?

My mother left the family home when I was just 7, it was still the 70s and divorce wasn't yet that common, my friends still had an intact family. My brother and I were brought up by our father, we had no idea anymore of what was normal. All you know is that you don't see one of your parents as often as you would like.

12 years later I am separated from my first wife, with 3 babies. Is this me keeping the cycle of broken families alive?

I think of my children all the time, I know what it's like to not have your parents around; there is a loss of self expression and freedom especially when you do see the missing parent. I see it sometimes with my own children with me, not so much now, but definitely when they were younger and my time with them was less. There was a resistance to getting close to me, just as it had been with me to my mother.

Like self protection, not wanting to get hurt and have your feelings hurt, you would hold yourself back, not a lot of fun for a child to do. I have seen my children and other children from broken families not feel free to talk about their time with the other parent, as if it would hurt the feelings of the parent they are with at the time.

I believe children should express their feelings, no matter how much it may hurt the feelings of the parent. I believe in being a role model for my children and only saying good and positive things of their mother, no matter what.

Children need both their mother and their father.

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