Moms and dads pre-birth worries compared
Many resources for new parents treat moms and dads in the same way – they speak of a generic “parent” which is essentially dealing with the same challenges of adjusting to a new life style once the baby is hear. Reality is very different of course – depending on the particular family arrangement the pre and post birth world is experienced very differently for moms and dads. Here’s a list of key concerns and worries as reported back by moms and dads we work with:
Pre-birth dad worries | Pre-birth mom worries |
| Family finance – how to pay for all the baby stuff | Giving birth – how to get that baby out of your body without too much pain or mess |
| Baby’s looks and intelligence – will my son/daughter be the next Zuckerberg, Lady Gaga or end up on social benefits | Health of baby – will my baby be healthy and well after birth? |
| Change of lifestyle – how will the baby affect our life style? The house, the car, going out, traveling, etc. | Looking after the baby – what do I need to know to make sure my baby grows and develops into a healthy child and adult? |
| Baby gear and gadgets – what is all the baby stuff we actually need? | Change of lifestyle – how will the baby affect our life style? The house, the car, going out, traveling, etc. |
| Bonding with the baby – what if I can’t relate to the baby … don’t know what to do with a baby | Back to work? – do I want to be a full time mom, return to work or ask my partner to stay at home with the baby? |
And post birth:
Post-birth dad worries (at month 3) | Post-birth mom worries (at month 3) |
| Change of lifestyle – how can I get back to our old life style? | Sleep – I’m exhausted … when will I have a full night’s sleep again? |
| Sex – when do we go back to our old sex life? | Family finance – how do we pay for all the baby stuff? |
| Family finance – man, all of the baby stuff is so expensive … where can we save some money? | Back to work? – do I want to be a full time mom, return to work or ask my partner to stay at home with the baby? |
| Baby’s development – how come my mate’s baby already knows how to roll over … what can I do to stimulate my baby’s development? | Health of baby – what can I do to make sure our baby is healthy and well? |
| Spare wheel – I don’t know what to do with the baby / feel like I’m doing something wrong all the time | Relationship – we have no time for us … |
By DIYFather.com
